Hurting my back - bad - and recovring
January 27, 2017
I am doing better. I can walk around the house without a cane in the afternoon/evening.
Pain is minor as long as I accept my limitations.I have a lot of time to think while I am flat on my back resting. I am rearranging my life. Maybe I just needed something like this to happen. No. Not really. But since it’s where I am at, I am going to make the best of it. I may relapse. There are unknowns with my diagnosis. I don’t know how tomorrow will be. But I am in a place where I can be OK. (Read my Medium/G+ post from yesterday if you want to know more about last weekend: ). I now know I have to work to stay sane, fortunately, my job is accommodating. This has taught me that retiring is not a good idea, even though I used to think so. It’s amazing how little of what I did was essential. Most mobile games suck. Alcohol is a wonderful drug, and in reasonable amounts, a lot less damaging than some of the other pharmaceuticals, which I have stopped taking because they made me sick. I miss gaming, but I worked for 3 hours today. I got a setup for working on my laptop in my bed, and I am writing this being able to sit at the kitchen table for ten minutes at a time. Life is good.
Feb 5, 2017
I’ve practiced negativity, pessimism, and anxiety all my life. I am very good at it.
The truth is, you become what you practice. And, I extend, what you believe.
Like. I believe I play guitar badly. No matter how much I practice, how well I play, that belief is going to inform how I feel about my playing guitar. I believe many horrible things about myself. Like, I am a failure (objective observation indicates I am not).
My (stupid) back injury put me in a place of incredible pain, and a place where I have to adjust my physical capabilities, and rebuild and rehab them. I can do that. I know, because I’ve done it once before (don’t give me the age shit), so I will ride dirt bikes again, even if I may not do tae kwon do, because it just hammers your knees. I know how to rehab my body.
My mind is another story. In all that pain, I considered leaving everything behind, but the drugs I had in my cabinet would just make me throw up. A botched suicide would be worse. I tallied up my necessity, and the world would simply go on. Some people would be very sad, and then go on with their lives. I am not important. Be real about that.
So, what am I alive for? What can I do that is unique enough that I should preserve it?
Maybe I have an obligation to live, simply because I was given this precious gift of life. It doesn’t matter by whom, or whether it’s random, I was given this. I am genetically unique. I’ve done and experienced stuff few people have. I am a writer. Maybe that’s enough? Maybe something I write can nudge one other person, one of relevance to the nudgings of the world. Being a catalyst, then?
Things are slowly improving.
My mind is my biggest challenge: I am terrified of having to go back to hell pain week and it’s permeating everything.
I lasted 3 days on a tiny dose of Lexapro that totally wrecks me, I am getting off and deal with my mind, it should be out of my system by Sunday. A good colleague and mentor at work died over the weekend. What I need to do is work with reality, instead of fighting it. It will get better, it did the last times I busted a disk, it just takes time. I am not good at being patient, but I am good at being persistent. I AM better than I was a week ago. Work is what’s keeping me grounded in RL. Getting a smaller, lighter personal laptop tomorrow. I am grateful to be able to throw money at things such as a new mattress, or Uber to get me places. Alcohol is a wonderful drug and I wish we didn’t bedevil it so much. I tried to simplify my life last year and I never felt less busy, but now it turns out I succeeded. Most mobile games suck. I’ve been playing ARK a little, because it echoes my state of mind. I miss WoW. I miss HDK like it used to be (missing == not living in reality). I am going to login now, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
The photograph is of a set of lamps above me as I was laying on my back at work waiting for a conference room. I MADE IT TO WORK TODAY IN PERSON.